Coming back to social life...

When I was much younger I'd had this idea somehow cement itself into my soul that said one day I'd have a time in which I'd lose all the friends I had.  Because I was transgendered, or because I wasn't a pushover of a girl, or because I'd finally reach that stress point where my emotions just fractured or any other conceivable fear-based "reason".  

I was right...but...I was wrong as well.

Opening the perceptual window...

It occurred to me, recently, that there are many things that while they may not need repeating, dearly bear repeating.  Require it.  That our world would be all the better for if every single person living today would be open to, listen to, and then give serious consideration to, these pearls of wisdom or perception.

This is one of them.

My best partner (probably not what you're thinking).

As I sit here, thinking of what I'd like to touch on in this post; I find myself consistently stalled by thoughts of a certain someone.  Let me tell you about him.

Magnets Prove Gay Relationships Can't Exist?

Magnets Prove Gay Relationships Can't Exist?

o.O

Someone please tell me this Professor D S Aribuike and Chibuihem Amalaha are in some way, shape or form being investigated for having their tenure revoked and being removed from a position of being able to spread this sort of insanity.  University of Lagos, WTF???? 


(EDIT:  Oh, well...Nigeria.  I guess I'm not at all surprised if it's coming from a center of anti-human stew that is that region.  Nothing to see here...move along.)

Why a person's identity is worth respecting!

I've wanted this past week to produce a post on my feelings on Chelsea Manning, formerly known as Bradley Manning.  Not about her actions regarding the Wikileaks scandal, the charges levied at her because of same, or anything that focuses on that whole cluster-fuck of an issue.  What I've felt that I wanted to broach was her identity and how it's being mishandled, lazily (or deliberately) skewed, and how so many in the media and world at large seem to have a honking big double-standard regarding said identity.

Hey, better later than never...

...or not.  Anyone that's cared for this little endeavor of mine, thank you.    I can only offer my profound apologies for my lack of updates.  Things have been weird.  That's not an excuse...just what has been.  I've allowed it to distract me from the purpose of this blog....and I shant do so again.

Now then...let's kick this pig! 

The things that make us who we are.

Did your subconscious know you before you consciously knew yourself fully?

When I Say My Daughter is Transgender, Believe Me. | Bitch Media

 Other people's expectations for the world around them many times paint over something they're not familiar with, or denies that which cannot be accepted.  Have a read.  Expand your perceptual window.  Or lend an ear to a voice that should and needs to be heard on the topic. 

 When I Say My Daughter is Transgender, Believe Me. | Bitch Media

A change of tack...just because.

Short one for the day, being in heat exhaustion, sick, and on my second day without sleep.

"It's all bullshit and it's all bad for ya" - Points if you recognize the quote.  For what, you may ask?

I'd say "sorry, not a damn thing"...but it'd take energy I don't have to mean it. Ugh.

New stuff tomorrow.  Or maybe tonight.

The Emergence & Danger of the 'Acceptable Trans* Narrative'

The Emergence & Danger of the 'Acceptable Trans* Narrative'

Yeah, it's older, but good work and messages should never fade because of date.  BILERICO's  Drew Cordes delivers a thought provoking piece that deserves as many people as we can draw to it, among other great articles.  Please have a read and if you like, stay for the day.

Was it dead, or was it Memory?

One day, I had a seizure.  Not being epileptic at all, saying it was a surreal experience is a bit of understatement. 

Quantum Mechanics Supports Free Will

 Gotta love when concepts such as the human will and quantum mechanics are mix for a nice epic "You got your subjective in my objective!"/"You got your objective in my subjective!" intellectual exchange.  For anyone that appreciates acts of will as centrally as I do and hasn't seen this yet, have a snip to whet your appetite.

Do you believe in free will?
Some physicists and neuroscientists believe in the opposite proposition: determinism. The mathematics of quantum mechanics have a say in this argument: Determinism is impossible unless you are willing to make an even greater philosophical sacrifice.

Hit the link to dive into the deeper water of the philosophy/physics foxtrot.  Take this up with your friends, family, or someone in line that looks bored.  This is the sort of conversation we don't have enough of, anymore. 


Quantum Mechanics Supports Free Will 

by Tom Hartsfield

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Dear Mom & Dad...

Hi.  It's me, your daughter.  The one you didn't know you had.  The one that your "son" hid so well that "he" almost drowned in its spill-over.  It's been too long, I know.  Life gets busy.  Days turn into years and then I realize that I haven't called upon you. 

Certainty. This guy has it.

I have a list of people that either have been substantially influential in my life by giving knowlege, succor or clarity or are extraordinarily representative of my views on any given subject. It's not huge, but I like to pull it out and check it every now and then...if only to keep it current given the evolution of myself as a person.

Years ago I was fortunate enough to have a friend introduce me to a source of the aforementioned clarity. Everyone...EVERYONE...should see first hand but I'll attempt to reproduce the effect here, albeit in unfortunate austere fashion.

I share one of those with you, the reader, taken from John Hurt's standout role as the man with the incredibly bold hat sensibility in "Englishman in New York", gay icon Quentin Crisp. 

To paraphrase my favorite comedic supplier of current events, "Here it is, a moment of Zen". 

"Persistence is your greatest weapon.  It is in the nature of barriers that they fall.  Do not seek to become like your opponents.  You have the burden and the great joy of being outsiders.  Every day you live is a kind of triumph.  This you should cling on to.  You should make no effort to try and join society.  Stay right where you are.  Give your name and serial number and wait for society to form itself around you, because it most certainly will.  

Neither look forward where there is doubt or backward where there is regret.  Look inward and ask not if there is anything outside that you want, but rather if there is anything inside that you have not unpacked."

Transgender Issues = Rage-Fuel?!?

I figured that I'd like to start things off with something light.  An opportunity for I, as writer, and you, as reader, to gently work our way into the vacillating dichotomy these things become in time.

And then I thought...fuck that.

Sojourn...does anyone even use that word anymore?

Hi!   Welcome to Essential Sojourn, a blog designed with a lack of design in mind.  Usually, I'm not a big Twitter, ect user.  Social Media has somewhat left me behind and I figured would be a way to reach out with the voice I use the best....that being the written word. With your time and my predilection for musings/reactions/self-exploration I'm hoping to gain some personal growth in the sharing and, perhaps, someone else might take something from it as well.

A little about myself.  I'm a 39 year-old transgendered woman, having been living so since I was able to drink legally.  While I'm old-fashioned in some ways, I'm progressive in others and try to remain my futurist self as I can.  With the future comes hope and we all can use a little of that.  But, also from the past can hope spring, most often from the last place one might look.  Therefore,  I want this blog to be a window into myself as well as an exploration of that which has passed and that yet to come.

I'll put forth to share, take as you will.  Comments are welcome.  It's all about discussion, anyway.

"Yippie-Ki Yay, motherfuckers..."

Yes.  That fits nicely.